Fighting For Your Marriage

What does “Fighting for Your Marriage” have to do with finances? Frankly, a lot. Consider that about 50% of marriages in the U.S. end up in divorce. The emotional and mental toll can be overwhelming, sometimes more than the financial toll. But, the financial toll contributes to the mental and emotional toll. In short, they are connected.

If a simple resource can help a couple through some rough patches in life and keep their marriage together think of the financial cost savings to that family.

Instead of “Fighting in Your Marriage” consider the notion of learning how to “Fight for Your Marriage”.

There is an old saying that says “happy wife….happy life.” Surely, the same must apply to husbands in a different way, but it doesn’t rhyme as well.

The Prevention Relationship Enhancement Program, or PREP, was developed by Drs. Howard Markman, Scott Stanley and their colleagues at the University of Denver’s Center of Marital and Family Studies.

With over 35 years of research and clinical studies PREP has released many relationship materials. Go to for more information about how to strengthen your marriage. 

The principles taught through the PREP program can not only save marriages but also enhance marriages. They do not replace the value of a good therapist when needed, but as couples become more adept at using the principles taught they might find that their financial risks of possible legal fees, alimony, child support, or the financial burden of supporting two households diminishes significantly.

What is Your Primary Love Language?

Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University.

Dr. Gary Chapman is the author of numerous books published by Moody Publishers/Northfield Publishing, including Anger, The Family You’ve Always Wanted, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, Desperate Marriages, God Speaks Your Love Language, How to Really Love Your Adult Child, and Hope for the Separated. With Dr. Jennifer Thomas, he co-authored The Five Languages of Apology.

One of his most popular books is the 5 Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Click here for a simple quiz to discover what your primary love languages are. Most of us have been taught the “Golden Rule” which is to love others as you love yourself. Dr. Chapman’s work teaches us, what I call, the “Platinum Rule” which is to love others as they prefer to be loved.

True personal story: My wife and I were married in 1980. We had taken this simple 5 Love Language assessment about 20 years into our marriage. After all those years of marriage I never had a clue that my wife’s highest love language was ‘acts of service’ until I took this simple quiz. Dr. Chapman’s simple work helped me better understand how my wife feels loved.

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